This is SO powerful.
Ann shared the following with me during our morning coffee time on August 26, 2019. It was so liberating and good that I wanted to share it with you.
We’re to become one with our mate. If we’re not becoming one with them, we’re missing out on so much of what God intends for marriage. He wants to grow our marriages and to bless us with each other. What could be more beautiful?
In the 1980s, Ann and I were meeting with a Christian counselor who finally told Mark he had to choose between his wife and his parents. The counselor said that unless Mark cut things off with his parents, Ann and I would probably end up divorced. I wrote my parents and told them I needed to cut ties with them. It wasn’t an easy thing for me to do, and it made my parents very angry and hurt. But, it had to be done.
As a result of my decision to cut ties with my parents, my parents said our kids (Faith and Hope) were going to do the same thing to us that we did to them. But, as always, the Word saved us from my parents’ curse.
Our daughters leaving us is the right thing to do. It’s what the Word says they should do. The Word is always a blessing. God turned the curse my parents’ were trying to put on us into a blessing with His Word.
Husbands and wives are supposed to become “one,” physically, emotionally and spiritually – It’s the only way to have a shot at the kind of marriage God desires. Husbands and wives are not to cling to and stay “one” with their parents. God does not expect them to try to cling to both their parents and their spouse. Doing so is out of order and can cause a lot of heartache because it is sin. It’s not God’s way. It’s man’s way and man’s way doesn’t.
Leave and cleave. It’s the Biblical thing to do. We always get blessed when we “do” the Word. My (Mark) parents did not leave and cleave from their own parents, they never became one emotionally or spiritually, and it made things really bad – My parents were not in order with God’s Word. We want our kids to leave and cleave with their spouse because that’s when the parents and the kids are blessed.
Don’t “hang onto” your kids. And don’t let them cling to you (their parent). Don’t do it. Let them leave and cleave to their mates. God will bless you and them for obeying His Word in this area.
22 Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib, and he brought her to the man.
23 “At last!” the man exclaimed.
“This one is bone from my bone,
and flesh from my flesh!
She will be called ‘woman,’
because she was taken from ‘man.’”
24 This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.
25 Now the man and his wife were both naked, but they felt no shame.
Genesis 2:22-25
God bless,
Mark